BEING WOMEN - DEEPIKA PADUKONE

Beautiful, gorgeous, talented actress in the glamour world of bollywood is DEEPIKA PADUKONE. “I used to cry, feel empty for weeks”, says Deepika Padukone while talking about her fight against Depression. While concentrating on her education and sports career, she has also worked as a child model. She gained recognition for a TV commercial for the soap Liril and In 2005, she made her debut at Lakme Fashion week and won “Model Of The Year” award. She learned the Japanese martial art form of jujutsu and performed her stunts without use of a body doubles.

She made her acting debut in 2006 in the Kannada film ‘Aishwarya’. Padukone then played a dual role in her first Bollywood release in 2007 Om Shanti Om and won a Filmfare Award for Best Female Debut. Deepika had five film releases in 2010. In 2013, she established herself as a leading actress of contemporary Hindi Cinema. In addition to acting, Deepika has written opinion columns and has been involved with women’s health and fitness magazine. She has always supported charitable organizations and has performed for stage shows.

"Really #BELIEVE In YOURSELF!" - Deepika Padukone (@deepikapadukone) - Top 10 Rules

Here are some rules listed as per the focusing on the opinion of the leading lady of bollywood.

Rule 1: Believe in yourself

Things will not always go your way and there will be times when things will be difficult. You may want things to go certain way and they don’t go that way. Throughout these years, one thing I(Deepika) have learnt to be patient and believe in yourself. Don’t give up easily. There will be amazing people supporting your vision saying “Yes, you can do this” and also some discouraging people saying “Are you sure you wanna wait? Why don’t you try something else?”. I have always had a clarity about what I want to do in my life.

Rule 2: Work harder

I work harder to prove to myself that I can really do this. Every film has its own challenges and many people feel that film industry is all about glamour and people here are very privileged. But that’s not true because there is lot of hard work, commitment, dedication, sacrifices that goes into being who we are and achieving what we do.

Rule 3: Stay Hungry

I am extremely ambitious and I exactly know what I want to achieve for myself. It is a continuous process. Since childhood I know what I wanted to do and today I am living that dream. But I am not satisfied and I want my hunger and motivation to keep me going.

Rule 4: Be your own individual

I admire people for their performances but I do not want my career to be like anyone else but my own. Even if I wanted to be, it cannot be. I wanted to be remembered as my individual sense of style, films, career, values or anything.

Rule 5: Be willing to commit

You want to keep on adding layers to yourself, your life, your career. I don’t view Bollywood and Hollywood as a separate career but it’s a one long journey wherein you will face new things and new challenges. It’s a huge time commitment and I wanted to do this. I don’t want to regret anything in my life and 10-20 years  down the line I don’t want to thing that I had missed the golden opportunity.

Rule 6: Do what you love

I do what I do and I do what I love. The money happens to come and it means nothing. Even if you have everything in the world and you are not happy; it means nothing. It doesn’t matter if money is there or not there. I value quality time with my family, going on family vacation, cooking a meal in kitchen, spending time with my friends, being creatively satisfied with a film, going up on stage to receive film-fare award.

Rule 7: Be prepared to make sacrifices

You have to make some social sacrifices. The biggest sacrifice for me is I don’t live with my family as I must move away. Of course, there are days when over a meal, I don’t have my parents and sisters to talk to about how my day was. Talking on phone and being face to face is different. There are also sacrifices made on diet even though I am not the one who puts on weight easily. I have to control my weakness for sweets and chocolates.

Rule 8: Challenge yourself

As an actor, you constantly look for challenges either in a kind of role or a movie. ‘Cocktail’ movie was completely out of my comfort zone and it was the right film for me. So I was also offered Fast and furious 7 which didn’t worked out. Today when I look back, I feel like that it just wasn’t meant to me. But ‘xXx: Return of Xander Cage’ was a perfect action movie with the right kind of challenge in the right way.

Rule 9: Define Success for yourself

For me, to be truly successful is to be at peace with myself and to be happy every day. Depression has taught me that my life is very fragile and it made me value people, emotions and feelings. Success is not the material thing and it is not the number because even if you are number 1, you want to keep going or you can have X amount of money and so on. As far as material things are concerned, people want more and more and there is no end to it as it is human nature.

Rule 10: Have fun

Along with the intense hard work, the ,most important thing is that you must enjoy doing your work and enjoy at work too. I would like to share a recent incidence.When 1 year ago, I was offered a movie, I flew there and at midnight I and Vin had a professional photo shoot. I wasn’t even knowing that I am in or not. When Vin uploaded photos, I asked him it will mean that I am in, but he didn’t reply. I had journalist from India asking on a call that am I doing that film? I had no idea what to say.

So try to follow simple things as they may lead to your dream. 

Thank you for your time.

BEING WOMAN

It is a matter of fact that the girl child is viewed as LIABILITY. Birth of a child as a girl is not celebrated. If it’s not a tragedy, to a family it’s the setback. The only expectation is that she grows up to be a presentable young woman who can get a decent spouse. So, when woman start from a point like that it’s very hard to find pride in ourselves, confidence in your own being and in your own actions. Mutation in this mentality is must in modern era where a woman delivers more output with higher efficiency in all the arenas of society.

When we hear, or read such things, we are fantasized and overwhelmed by it. But we seldom follow it or somewhere deep down ourselves, we think it not how the real world works. Yet there are many epitomes who have proved that NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR A WOMAN. Let us have a look at what these women have to say about being woman.

Mother Teresa (1979 Nobel Peace prize winner) -

We had only 4 boys and all have been adopted. These are the only girls. (She smiled about it) These are the lucky once. They didn’t end up in dustbins. They ended up with the future.

Kangana Ranutt (one of the highest-paid actresses in India) -

Women are lot more than people think they are and we want to find ourselves. It’s a lot more important for women to accept themselves as opposed to others accepting them. Others opinion of you will always shift. Their perspective will keep changing. So, as women, we don’t have to hope that we get our due. We need to get up and get it ourselves. 

J.K.Rolling (author of the Harry Potter fantasy series) -

I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short lived marriage had imploded and I was jobless lone parent. I was as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain without being homeless. I was set free because my greatest fear had been realized, I was still alive and I had a daughter whom I adored a lot, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. So rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.

Malala Yousafzai (2014 Nobel Peace Prize Winner) -

Thank you to my father for not clipping my wings and letting me fly. Thank you to  my mother for inspiring me to be patient, to believe in myself and be brave. I am just a committed and even stubborn who wants to see every child getting a quality education, who wants to see women having equal rights and who wants peace in every corner of the world. 

Taylor Swift (most popular contemporary female recording artist & an American singer-songwriter) - I want to say to all the young women out there that there are going to be people along the way who will try to undercut your success or take credit for your accomplishment or your fame. But if you just focus on the work and you don’t let those people side-track you, someday when you get where you are going. Then if you will look around then you will know that it was you and the people who love you who were responsible to put you there and that will be the greatest feeling in the world. 

Priyanka Chopra (Miss World 2000 and most successful actress of Bollywood) -

The most beautiful thing about having dreams is that it’s in your hands how big your dreams become. No one can tell you that your dream is too small or your dream cannot come true or your dream cannot be allowed because you are a girl or a boy or because you look a certain way or because you come from a certain place. Don’t be afraid to dream because they do come true. They really do. 

Indra Nooyi (CEO of Pepsico) - Whatever you do, throw yourself into it. Throw your head, heart and hands into it. I look at my job not as a job, I look at it as a calling, as a passion. I don’t care about the hours and I don’t care about the hardship because to me everything is a joy. So, whatever you do, please look upon it as a calling, as a passion and not as job or something temporary. Please help others rise as greatness comes not from a position but from helping build the future. All of us in position of power have an obligation to pull others up. 

Selena Gomez (American singer and actress) - My mom had me when she was 16. She worked in 4 jobs and completely dedicated her life into making mine better. So to me, she is the definition of strong women. I wanted to be an actress and I had a casting director tell me that I wasn’t strong enough to carry my own show. I’m sure all of you have been told that you don’t have what it takes and you don’t have enough people supporting you. But deep down its all you want to do. You want to be the part of something great. The most important thing is to always have a trust in yourself. 

Kiran Bedi (retired IPS officer, social activist, former tennis player and politician) -

We were 4 girls and no boys. My father defied his own grandfather almost to the point of disinheritance. Because he decided to educate all 4 of us. He sent us to one of the best schools in the city. 

Susmita Sen (Miss Universe1994) 

 I have been blessed to be born in a family who raised me just as a human being. They didn’t differentiate between a girl and a boy.

Age of the Aquarius is when women will rise. It is the time when we will come to the awareness of the female strength. There is a reason why law of the nature says to you when you become pregnant you shouldn’t know it’s a girl or a boy. When we kill the nurturer, we create an imbalance that we will be so sorry in generations to have done because the life will stop to exist the way we see it. The world will change on its own. If you change one life and if you can change one thought that having girl is having the womb of the universe, you will then nurture the life beyond.